Do you ever find yourself making God’s greatest blessings in your life a burden? I am so OVER doing this to myself. I am tired of living for bedtime, so my house will be quiet. I am tired of hating doing the dishes because my healthy family ate three square meals that day. I am tired of taking for granted how incredibly wonderful my husband is.
And that is what I am blogging about today. GMWK is finding joy in being a wife. I hope these simple shifts in perspective and daily habits can help feel more fulfilled and grateful for your spouse.
#1
Daily Check In
Schedule a daily time to “check in” with your spouse about how their day is going. Set an alarm on your phone. It takes about 30 seconds to send a text. It lets them know that you are thinking of them. Emojis and Memes are also a fun way to flirt or connect via text. Texts are also a great opportunity to apologize for any transgressions that occurred that morning.
#2
Do the Simple Thing
Martin loves when I softly rub his arm. I don’t quite understand it. It is so ticklish to me. But he loves it. So when I have the opportunity, I tickle that arm. It is almost like petting a dog, he just loves it. Think driving in the car, sitting at church, on the couch. It is so simple, but so very effective. He relaxes and finds so much contentment. You know your husband best. It may be a back scratch, shoulder massage, or hand holding. Do that simple thing.
#3
Remanence Often
I think it is so important to talk about your life together, where you’ve been, what you’ve been through, and how much you’ve relied on each other. When you do this, you quickly realize that you have and are living out your wedding vows.
#4
Be Silly
Life is hard. Parenting is hard. Marriage is hard. Being an adult is hard. So much of life is very serious. Don’t forget how to be light-hearted. Play old songs from high school that you know all the words to, watch a funny clip video on youtube together, laugh at old pictures or videos of your kids. You get it.
#5
Talk Up, Never Down
Talk up your husband to others, when he is there and even when he is not. Tell others how proud you are of him, tell them about how hard he works, tell them how great of a dad he is. We need to be careful not to say things that do not paint our husband’s in a positive light. It is natural to want to vent to others, but we wouldn’t want our husbands saying all the things that we do wrong or the things they don’t like about me with others. For me (and probably most of us) I can say things that I think are reality, but once I take a moment and step back, I realize that I exaggerated or wasn’t in my clear mind when I thought or spoke those things. No spouse is perfect. No marriage is perfect. So choose to talk up and never down.
I hope these 5 tips can help you find joy in being a wife. Never forget that being a wife is something you dreamed your whole life of being. Don’t forget how precious it is. Protect your marriage. God’s blessings will be sure to cover and guide you.
Love this!!!! Such fantastic ideas!!